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genetic psychology!

We think of major incidents that shape our life or occupy our mind and behavior patterns.
Many premeditated patterns of behavior entered our genes when we were being born.
Aggressive behaviour toward nature, animals, also entered by this method.

These writings are our own. we own it. It is our opinion. Do U have a choice for what to put into the genetics before your baby is born. Yes, there are ways.

coming up shortly GENETIC PSYCHOLOGY PAGE !

sunflowerdance man and society network has a consultative committee of committed comrades for the social welfare of all.

Books are under print.

Public awareness camps are held by us.

"We do not belong to any political ideology. We work for humanism for all."

bad persons will never get mad
only the good will get insane;

in the hospital mental
i saw mostly good honest
conscientious people.

if hardwares of the body at old age dont cooperate it is bearable

but if softwares of the body dont cooperate it is horrible;

"Our mission is to found a net community of love and affection with assertion for good things of life. Good people without asserting have spoiled the earth life than unsuitable persons.

All good intended sites will get mentioned here as long as possible- time, space, work, ability permits. Let us work together not to live longer but to live healthier as long as we live, without diseases and problems of the mind."

We already visit homes, persons, and advise them in the interest of peace and happiness of the homes and individuals and we found that it works wonders, when some one unrelated enters the home as a friend and advises. People are misled and living in myths. We are happy we could bring in peace and joy into atleast some families, where in the absence of our intervention, something violent and hurting would have taken place. But we become committed and our moral and sentimental liability to all increases, burdening us.

- D Parameswaran

D Parameswaran Project Director,,Madurai,India

Humanist, Social Psychologist, freelance journalist, writer, poet, social activist, consumer activist, nature-living activist, non - religious.

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Psychology Education (PE)

MENTAL HEALTH FIRST AID KIT

(new stuff) mar 08

REMOVAL OF ANTI BIO AND UNHEALTHY CONCEPTS
We have more Trojans, spywares, worms, and virusi
inside our Mind , just as there are those, in our systems, PCs, laptops,etc. We do not know that they are against our good health. We require knowledge to know who they are and we require motivation to remove them from our Insides. Further we have no technique to remove them as easily as we do in a system. Since we are living in a bio system, we have to necessarily follow what it dictates or quotes as codes of conduct, like the rules of the road. Self Analysis, Diary Writing, talking sensibly gracefully with worthy friends, will help in identifying our faults. Self actualisation, after Self Realisation, will help in restoring to a strong effective operative mind. That's why we get into problems. The problems are within us, mostly.
The solutions are not outside.

The Mind needs to be optimised for better performance, just like a system. This will avoid wasting of energy.

The Mind needs startup Management, which requires
Meditation, and Yoga techniques. If you can stop thinking continuously, you save your brain cells, and their performance. Morning as you get up, think, and manage your startup with good thoughts, with a resolution to avoid continuous thinking. Normally you will be obsessed with spouse fight, boss fight etc.
This will be in the start up. Remove them, and think of your good friends and their good gestures.

Remove from mind all privacy entries that arenot required. These are politics, hatred, retaliation, aggression, revenge to your enemies.

You got to clean your mind, of its junk files very often, so that you can think and achieve results.

You to have safeguard your faculties with
security defense, as watch word, to avoid thinking on issues that will take away your energy.

What to do and what not to do is registered in your sub consciousness already. Once in a while, take leave and think what you do and what you ought to do.
Register them as entries for future running in your mind.

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"It is not enough to have a good mind.

The main thing is to use it well."

- Descartes (1596-1650)

IT is another important area of knowledge neglected (others are operations research, general systems theory, the west will not respect these theories because it is against the egoistic self centered capitalistic and similar communistic principles (carefully willfully avoided by man in his digressing civilization._)

It is lack of PE that has created rift in our homes, offices, and the world. Had we learnt it we would have handled situations better, hurting others lesser and hurting ourselves lesser. One of the subjects NOT developed carefully avoided due to the plotting Degenerated Man.

Giving respect to each other every where is not a moral it is psychological DEMAND requirement, like the rule of the road.

If all of us have to use the road we got to follow the rules of the road.

PE would have taught mothers not to pamper their boys and convert them into criminals.

PE would have promoted a decision avoiding of ending the workers and his family. Today the state is doing it.

PE would have taught us to trim our ego.

Domestic Violence

Home has become a dome of violence. It is a big subject and it is not easy to catch the culprit.

The psychology involved is too complicated.

The terrorist can be caught. The pickpocket can be caught. But not the home criminal. You will be forced to catch and punish the innocent. YOU WILL BE MISLED. THERE IS NO PROOF. AND ALL ARE FABRICATED.

Here one starts making the others criminal over a period of years, decades . Children suffer. Women suffer. Men suffer.
There is no escape.

THIS is also one of the reasons for general unrest all over the world, It is hidden Trojan or virus in our homes. Mothers keep telling their children that father is a fool and idiot and he should not be respected. Ultimately loses his face, and and peace of mind and leaves them in the lurch. Who is at fault ? Many of the organizations disrupt family lives. The police do not. They try to join them.

At home : In most of the homes women are oppressed and children also don't get attn. Male members keep their noses high in the air and don't respect a damn about athe others at homes.

In some rare homes, when the male member is simple, affectionate , with a naked psyche toward his family members, they look down upon him as foolish and uninformed, and unintelligent. Such males dominate the scenes on the road, in office, elsewhere except home. For them if they leave behind their office they feel insecure.

A GOOD PERCENT OF THE ORDINARY LIVES OF THE ADULTS THE WORLD OVER, HAS TURNED OUT TO BE LIKE THAT OF A PSYCHOPATH AND THEY ARE NOT AWARE OF IT ! AND THEY ARE OCCUPYING IMPORTANT POSTS IN DAY TO DAY LIFE AFFECTING THE LIVES OF MILLIONS !

"married relationships are the most harrowing brain splitting .and are damaging to the mind and the self. It removes the self confidence/ self respect of the individual. It offers less number of alternatives to escape from the torture of the fateful events. The environment is decided. It is the fate. It cannot be changed. It is not natural. IT is man-made. "

Inviting trouble: "Strange it may seem, but the frustrated soul dances, a crazy dance, it invites evil to dance, and it is not the sunflowerdance ! The chances of committing crimes, and getting into less moral acts are more. Broken relationships long for newer relationships and alerts and yardsticks are ignored."

So be careful when U encounter such psychic levels in your life. I suggest get away to forget the past and be yourself, find yourself with books, poems, songs ,

YOUR wonderful life will re open a like a bud in a small plant after the rains !

ONE PLUS ONE IS A FIRE

matrimonial marital relationships are questionable and causes untold hardships, mainly because of ego and inability to understand the other !

Individually every one is good to move with, be a friend of , spend time with;

some are pleasant, silent , graceful, and we can feel like we can spend hours days together with them; there are the opposites; when two persons stay together either as man and man or as man and wife the results are horrible !

Psychology:

TYPE 01:

The person does not listen to the other.
and forms a strongly rooted opinion of
what is on his/her the other person's
mind.This is like the traffic on the
road. You are driving at normal speed.
And you find here is some one moving slowly
before you. Neither he increases speed,nor
he leaves the way for you. You cannot have
any other choice other than to move behind
him, trailing him.

cul de sacs: There is no way here. This is
a one way entry.

Mind goes on thinking of the same thing
again and again. Depression sets in.
The other persons characrts are more important than
other issues of importance; if the unfavorable features
are ignored, disregarded, and if the aim on
the issues on hand, there is a possibility of
finding solutions. But it is fate. It is the
constipation of the mind. I will call it.
Today there are many victims of this way o
f thinking. Healthy mind is a rare find.

this child hood behavior is still continuing into adult hood when a child is advised not to do a thing, it will do when it is appreciated it understands otherwise it reacts by spoiling the work.

PRACTISE THESE AT HOME

01. CELEBRATE THIS WEEK:

TOPICS:
01. RESPECT OTHERS INDIVIDUALITY IN THE FAMILY

02. WORK AND CLEAN THE HOUSE, ALL IN

A TEAM WORK

03. HUMOUR CRACK JOKES AT HOME & IN FAMILY

04. PEACE OF MIND DON'T SHOUT

DON'T CREATE STRESS FOR OTHERS LOWER YOUR VOICE AT HOME

BE PLEASING TO OTHERS AT HOME, USE TONGE PRUDENTLY IT CAN BRING STRESS TO OTHERS AND URSELF

THE MIND HAS its SECRETS

WE WILL EXPLORE THE INSIDES IN OUR FUTURE ISSUESTHE IDEAS IN THE WEB SITE are THAT OF THE

Proverbs /poems :

if you dont regard what others say,

if u dont mind others at all,

then why do you expect to respect u ?

you eat what u deserve. you get what you sow.

this is an old adage/saying still holding good.

marriage

life till mrge is a comma

and afterwards --it is a full stop
thrfor be careful about life
about yr decisions
you only chose
life can be a heaven
or a hell
if u are careful
u can reduce the stay in hell

or get a heaven or atleast closer to your heavn !!

dont get waylaid, misguided,

fleeced by mncs, govts, homes !!
dont get cheated by media attracting yr attn
like whores on a street.
learn to ignore
media is overflowing more than we can digest
there are more producers now
than consumers
they look at u as an amalgam
of many consumers
if u got no money
u simply ignore
nothing appeals
u sit and think of ur life
that is natural
spontaneiety

essay: boss:
he is not natural
he is plotting
he gives u a small work
tells u how to do
u do it as he said
thats all
u did it correctly
u ar caught
u'll be given the same everyday !
he 'LL add one more day after day.
u 'll found urself camouflaged in work
u 'll not be finding urself
u r lost for urself
well that's nothing wrong if u do the work
and get all ur rights ensured if u r allowed to take care of ur health

marriage psychology:

IT IS THE SAME STORY EVERYWHERE ..

"you are insane
useful for nothing
you came and spoiled my life"
if the this is the form of address
made to you by your spouse
day in day out,
dont worry
it is the same story
everywhere
the world over;
you cannot be expected to go on
helping her out
no one will
if a plant is watered
it will show green leavs
it will yield results
the same way
all of it is
the same way

nobody need expect
all from one spouse
nobody need to keep many spoouses
for his all his needs
look out for something else
other than all from the spouse
let life open up elsewhere
get intersted in music art etc
that will sustain U loonger
than your whisky or spouse !

what a tree says..

THEY GAVE ME NOTHING

NO WATER, NO HELP
they NEVER BOTHERED ABOUT ME

MY NEEDS;

BUT IT RAINED IN TIME
I GAVE THEM FRUITS WOOD
NOW IT DOESNT RAIN
I BECAME DRY

NOW I HAVE NOTHING TO GIVE
NOT EVEN OXYGEN TO BREATHE

NOBODY LOOKS AT ME ANYMORE
THEY HAVE ALL ABANDONDED ME

WRONG CONCEPTUALISATIONS

VERY easy to make

and run it as softwares

like spywares, Trojans
everywhere
from system to system
from circle to circle
the myths last longer
than the truths;
there are no takers
for truths
ask Jesus
he knows.

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ARE U TOO, THINKING LIKE ME ?

early morning getting up,

i thot i should watch my self, going unwatched;

i am rushing thru daily routine work
and i skip many important self dev routines;
there s a hurry and rush in the mind.
introducing changes in mind
bringing the mind to accept the changes
i can do some exercises i have the time and place now which was not there previously.
when u have every thing

u don't do it.

when u don't have u lament .

horrible human mind

nature.
taking a cup of morning tea and a cigarette smoke for a few will be a very normal routine for which they are not lazy. They are prompt. that is a satanic act. The same force if it helps in executing our routines like yoga, meditation, walk, waist dip, cold pack, steam sauna etc how good it would have been.
i will call it. addiction.

time goes on. leaves turn matured, old, and aged. what has a leaf done in this life?
it has done much more than what i have ?
it came to life to give suport to the tree. and that is over.
time speeds up taking us thru trains, platforms, flights, runs, taxis, office meetings.
i don't stop and think.
i have to.

leave holidays Sundays have all gone
without achieving us anything
daily night i think what i have done?
nothing
browsing i start and end up with no good achievement having landed somewhere else other than what i meant when is started
SOLUTIONS EVADING US ***************
we dont know what to do when we face a problem, including in computer science.
we may have friends who know it, but their names do not come to mind,

keep a watch on what u are doing right now ?
is it top priority
should it be finished
can it be shelved fir the now or forever?
are u getting carried away by activities ?
are u committed to others do u invite more, more trouble, more courtesy's?
think
i think u can also think

activities like browsing, have made our mind scattered. perhaps.
things were different. we have achieved results sacrificing much of our faculties.

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